Last week we highlighted some common signs that your parent needs home care. You may notice some of these signs when you see your parent over the holidays. But once you realize that the time is nearing where you’ll need help for Mom or Dad, you’ll need to have an important discussion with them.
How to Bring Up the Topic of Home Care
Bringing up the idea of home care can be a touchy subject, and it’s likely that your parent or loved one will react emotionally to the discussion. However, these five tips can help to make the discussion as easy as possible for you both.
Start the Discussion Early
If possible, bring up the topic of home care well before you actually need to hire a caregiver. It can be difficult for seniors to adjust to the idea of having someone come into their home to care for them, especially if they’ve been relying on family for help until now.
In some situations you may not have much time, but if you do suspect that your loved one will need home care eventually, bring up the topic as soon as possible.
Carefully Choose Your Timing
Your timing in starting the conversation about home care can contribute to the way that the whole conversation goes. Pick a time when your loved one is relaxed and you have plenty of time for a longer conversation, if things end up going that way. Don’t bring up the topic when you’re rushed, stressed, or feeling flustered.
Explain Why You’re Worried
Don’t just tell your loved one that they need home care. Instead, explain that you’re worried about their safety living at home, and offer home care as a solution. It may be helpful to highlight some of the things that a caregiver would do, such as helping with light meal prep, accompanying your loved one to doctor’s appointments, or just being there on a daily basis to check in and make sure that your loved one is safe.
Your loved one will probably have questions and concerns about home care, and you should do your best to listen carefully to them. Make your loved one a part of the process when you think about what you need in a caregiver and what local solutions may be right for your family.
Don’t Give Up
Don’t approach the discussion believing that you’ll have an initial conversation and your loved one will agree to home care. This topic often needs to be an ongoing discussion that you will revisit a few times. If your loved one brings up detailed questions, you may need to reach out to us for some answers, so be ready for the conversation to take some time.
Your Next Steps
If your loved one’s safety is at risk, then you will need to go ahead and implement home care. But if you still have time, then have a few discussions about home care with your loved one. Remember to highlight the positives of home care.
At Cahoon Care, we work to closely match each client with an appropriate caregiver, and our goal is to have the same caregiver providing care each time. As a result, our caregivers and clients often develop relationships, and your loved one will experience consistency in their care.
If you have questions about home care, please contact us today. We would be happy to learn about your loved one, their care needs, and how we can help.